Saturday Spankings

Tonight we are going out to a kink event, we help our community and volunteer our time with setting up. 

Check out www.rascals-club.com that's where I will be, come on down, you may just see me cumming on demand *wink*

Take your judgment and shove it!

I just experienced a situation where on one of my social media sites a person messaged me asking me how I know so-and-so. I explained how I know them to which that person replied that they aren't lifestyle (meaning swing/kink/fetish) and that they were uncomfortable with the overlap.

I became very angry at the fact that I'm "good enough" for a person so long as I meet some criteria, however, the moment we know someone, I'm deemed bad and must be removed.

I removed the person in question and I will more than likely remove the other, I will not be shamed just because your worried about some overlap.

What's It Like to Be Collared?

I wore one once, and in my nativity it was I who bought it for my then Dom, thinking because it was what I wanted that He would appreciate my initiative in choosing this myself. When we parted ways, I gave it to Him, thinking it was His property. As I said I was new and with someone who thought he was a Dominant. Many years later, it is clear He never was.

Years have come and gone, as has life, but I have always wondered what it would be like to be collared. What's it like to have a ceremony? What's it like to look in the mirror and see that I am someone's property?

I imagine my self esteem would increase because there isn't just my own sense of self worth that rises, but the pride my Dom/Sir/Master would have in me.

I am in a open relationship and My Sir is my Primary I am not collared.

For me to be collared I've imaged feeling a sense of pride, not just in who I am as a person, but pride in that I am chosen to represent a piece of our unity together.

Kink and Mental Health

I was perv'n around and stumbled upon Fetlife's event. They are having a Month Long Kink Holiday Giveaway Kink Holiday Giveaway. If you are a member of Fetlife you can read the post and join. I did, its interesting to read all the suggestions and questions. Follow the links and you can join more month long contest.

          " To show our appreciation to our kink-tastic members and to continue on with our gift of giving mode that we kick started with our post here: A reminder to our Lifetime Supporters...the gift of giving, we will be giving away one free six month membership per day for the entire month of December! :-) "

excerpt from Kink Holiday Giveaway - Fetlife. 

I thought on my question and decided what it would be.

• Do you feel there is a connection between being socially accepted in a lifestyle looked down upon and mental health and stigma?

What's your question? Share here!! I look forward to seeing you on Fetlife! Be sure to come and hit me up and send me an email, I like making new kinky friends :).

2 year Sex-er-versary

Merry Ho'ness everyone!!

How have you all been? I know I've not written since September. The reason is I've been dealing with some mental health issues. I struggle with social anxiety, depression, bipolar and borderline personality disorder.

It has taken its toll on my kink life and poly relationships.

I know I've let many of you down, and I suspect you all have forgotten about me. I do apologize for that. I have been working on myself, seeing the right medical people, doing the protocols advised. Master and I are strong, he is my force and guidance.

Merry Kink'ness!! 

How I See My Master

I know it has been a long time, (a few months) since I have written. There have been a variety of reasons, but now that things are starting to return to better paths, I thought I would do an update. 

I wrote this recently and am going to share it here:

Over two and half years ago you can into my life, literally by a drive to an event that cancelled suddenly. Never had I felt so comfortable as we chatted while you drove to and from the event. Your ease to make me laugh, your sexy voice was all I had known, other than a profile picture of sexy man's chest.

During our conversations, not once did I ever see a photo of you til that evening you decided to drive back from the cancelled event and we spoke of meeting. You graciously went to Tim Hortons and picked up my steeped tea and you your triple triple. When you returned, you came to my home (something I seldom, if ever allowed anyone to come to) that was the very first time I had ever seen your face, the entire person, no longer just a voice and torso. Talk about a handsome and sexy man!

As our days and weeks went by, we realized we are joined. We both just knew that we are meant to be together.

I have no words to describe the passion you bring out in me. When we have done a scene, you have always made sure to have everything I need for when I return from sub drop. Your arms surrounding me, making me feel safe, always. Even so much as to make sure the next day, how I was and if I needed anything.

I smile with appreciation when I have seen you do a scene with another submissive. To see your floggers dance across the flesh, rhythm flowing to music that pulsates through your veins.

In our day to day life, you have always had my best interests. Through surgery, recovery and physical pain, you never wavered. My mental health has been a challenge, yet with your support and communication, you have shown me that not all run away. You have given me acceptance and returning of trust, something I thought I had long since lost.

You understand me, you encourage me and challenge me.

I am proud to be your submissive and love you with all that I am.

Stress release spanking

Lately things at home have been a bit hectic and stressful. Master has been busy with working and that takes Him away from home for many hours, as long as 16 hours!! Master treats me so very well, I am very lucky to be His submissive. Master allows me as much time as I need on the computer as He knows I have more than one blog that I write, as well as keeping in contact with the volunteer organization we work with and at times there is a flurry of activity that can't always wait til later or the next day. I also have unlimited text messaging usage, however, if Master wants my time, I shut everything down and focus on Him and His needs. That is just the way our M/s relationship is and I wouldn't change it for anything! 

We don't get to play very much, it seems that things just get the better of us. I sure do miss those heavy spankings where I feel the stress just melt away from me and the warmth of my ass shiny and warm! I'm always wondering how we will play, what with our several pets LOL! 

I love it when Master gets His toys out. I get wet and excited when I see them laid out in front of me. Master will being spanking me with His hand, I never count how many He has done because I start to become focused on our play together. I usually don't know which toy He will pick up and use on my ass. I do have favorites but I know He does too *wink*. 

During our play Master will ask me to spread my legs, He likes to look at my shaven pussy, freshly tidy just for Him. When I spread my legs for Him, it doesn't matter if I am on the St. Andrew's Cross or on our bed and on all 4's, His happiness is all that matters. I love being his "Good Girl". 

There are times where I will ask Master to spank me harder, that I want it to be difficult to sit down. Of course Master, always obliges :). I've had play where my ass has been so red that welts and bruising have been the gifts of my time with Him. Master will bite my neck, and growl. Oh how I love it when He growls and demands I cum for Him. I love it when He says "Cum girl, Cum for me". Oh the power of those words, and the orgasm that follows! Thank you Master for making me cum so hard for you!  Thank you for using me and taking me to your darkside! 

Master is a sensual dominant, in that He is a very caring and loving Master, but don't think He can't be strict! If I am not to move and I do, boy do I get a paddle for it! If Master asks how I am doing, I will always tell Him how I am feeling. It is very important to our scene that He knows if I am ok or not. We don't pay attention to time. When we play, we are in the moment and all that matters is us. I miss those times together. 

I love it when Master ties me up. Lately he has been practicing some new rope work and boy does it look hot! I can't wait to wear the "rope panties" He has been working on perfecting! So hot! I love when Master puts clothes pegs and/or other implements on my tits to make my nipples erect and hard. My body becoming  tingly and numb with the pegs on my nipples, but then when He removes them there are no words to describe the intensity of what feels like pain, only to have it bring you to orgasm! 

I always love how submissive I feel after we have played on the dark side. I love cuddling with Him, sitting at His feet, feeling safe and warm in His love for me.

I've had people ask me what is it about spankings that I like. My answer is pretty simple, I enjoy the arousal and feeling of being wet and knowing that Master also enjoys our play together. I love the warmth of my ass, I love seeing the marks after our play. I really enjoy our sex after a scene too!  

I hope we will be able to have some stress release spankings very, very soon! 

Lixxs and Spanxs! 

Grinding in the laundry room - fucked in the bedroom

Yep its one of THOSE kinds of posts lol!

Sleepy Sunday mornings, where I am doing laundry and Master comes in to check something and slides his body parallel to mine.  His cock alerts me to his sexual desires as Master lifts my naughty nightie exposing my flesh....

I get onto our bed, on all fours, nightie (very short and sexy) slipped above my waist exposing my ass. Master fondles every part of my body asking me if I have missed Him. Naturally I say I have, as He fingers my pussy, preparing me for what is to come.

I feel the tip of His cock playing with my pussy lips, the lube sliding around and making everything nice and slippery. SMACK, goes His hand on my ass, telling me how much He has missed my ass, THRUST as grabs my hips and says that they are the sexiest hips and are happy they are His.

I could go on.... but use your imagination, share your thoughts, let me know what you would like to see as the result of our morning....

Fetlife

Lately there has been issues on  Fetlife. For those that don't know Fetlife  is a BDSM kink community site.

For many months now, the site has come up on news media for various reasons, which if you think about it, is really no different than Facebook, its just that Fetlife is a site where people who may keep their kinks to themselves, many of us embrace ours. The other reason people choose to be anonymous about themselves is because society doesn't accept people who choose to live a lifestyle that accepts them for who they are. When a breach has happened, many become anxious and angry.

Some of the issues with breach of the terms of agreement for using the site, members outing one another when a relationship goes wrong and links being shared that involve children, which is in direct violation of the terms of agreement.

I don't know about you, but for me, I have scaled back what is on my profile and have been removing more and more photos (not that that changes anything, because we all know that once you put something up on the internet, it is up for life). The reason for me is simple, I've not been active in the community as much as I once was and I feel it is wrong to have comments on my profile depicting that I am available when right now, I'm focused on other areas of my life.

While the site has given me a platform for community, friendships, education and growth. I am concerned about the level of protection given. People need to take accountability for themselves, but when the owner of the site breaches his own Terms of Agreement, one has to wonder just what is deemed safe anymore?

Negotiating

Today was subbie tea day! I've not been in quite sometime and I very nearly didn't attend. I've been having a lot of trouble with getting sleep and subsequently my mood and energy is lacking. But Master insisted I go, He was going to be doing some renovations to our bathroom while I was away. 

I got to our subbie tea location and as usual our hostess, with the mostess, has outdone herself. Always conscious of allergies and food concerns for everyone. There was 1% milk, almond milk and soy milk for your tea and coffee. To gluten free foods, fresh fruits with chocolate for dipping, vegetables with a herb dip as well as spinach dip with homemade made bread to go with it.  It is a great time to catch up with other submissive people as well as discuss the day's topic which was: 

THE ART OF NEGOTIATION

This topic wasn't just for new people to the bdsm kink community. It is always great to have a refresher. For me today this refresher was in the discussion of safe words and realizing there are many different ways to get your safe word out. 

1. You can use visual "safe words" as they are excellent for when you are at a public play party and it is noisy. Or if you have a ball gag in your mouth.  An example of a visual can be a yellow ball in one hand and a red ball in the other hand. They can represent your level of acceptance.
2. You can use a small object and toss it on the floor or towards your Top when you have reached your "red" level of acceptance (if that is what you have negotiated). 

I found this topic refreshing as I have been in the bdsm community for 5 years this year and it is always good to go over your check list of what you are ok with watching, what you won't do, what you love and what you are curious about. 

Always remember there is NEVER to be any negotiation once a scene has started. 

That all limits are off the table until discussed. THEN and only THEN are the ones agreed to, are the ones allowed. NEVER allow a Top to introduce during a scene a change that you did not consent to. 

Always remember that negotiations will always be ongoing, as you evolve and grow. Mine have and I'm sure yours have or will the longer you are in the Community. 

Spanxs and Lixxs

Sexy Valentine's Day Wishes

Where has the time gone? It seems like yesterday we were in December and now we are here :)

Master and I wanted to wish all of you a Happy Kinky Valentine's Day!! May all your fantasies and kinks come true!

Keeping Up with Kink

Happy Friday Everybody! 

Sometimes life throws us curves and changes that make it difficult to keep up with our fetishes and kinks. 

That's what has happened with Master and I, just as I suspect it has happened to many of you. 

I have a mental illness and I do write on another blog as to how I am doing. You are more than welcome to follow Finding My Way Back as well I also do a fair bit of volunteer work with rescuing dogs from high kill shelters I also blog about the benefits to fostering, adopting and rescuing Everyday Wiggles. 

Health wise, I've been busy this week with appointments, so it has really taken away from blogging and staying in touch with people. 

Kink wise, there is West Coast Bound this weekend. I really wish we could go, but money is super tight right now and we just can't afford it. 

I am also on Tumblr and have just reconnected on there, boy have I missed it! Feel free to follow me there, I have all kinds of naughty thoughts revealed!Sexy On The Darkside

So that's what I have been up to! What have you all be up to? I'd sure love to hear how you all are doing.

Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2012

Today we saw that a friend of ours from Journey To the Darkside made it on this list again this year they are number 62!! Congratulations to Anakin and Padme amidala.

Be sure to check out Between My Sheets to see the list in its entirety! 

The goal this year is to visit as many of the blogs on the list that I've never visisted before and I will leave a comment. I am looking forward to making new friends, following new and amazing writers. Hey and as we are heading into the holiday season, why not wear a little garland "in all the right places" *wink*. I will be sure to say that Rori, from Between My Sheets sent me! 

Lixxs and Spanxs!

Sensual Sierra

2nd Anniversary!

Tomorrow, November 19th, will mark the 2 year anniversary that I met my Master and we decided to step forth on our journey to the dark side. 

We have been through many roads, some straight, some wavy, but through it all, He is such a strength for me. He encourages me to be the best I can be. He holds me when my days are stressful and He loves my quirky ways. We are each other's best friends and my submission to Him, although slow at first, is 100%. 

Master has a meanie side, but I like that side :p! In fact, the other day we were going through a store and what does He do, He grabbed a foamy hammer (think Flintstones) and started whacking my ass with it in the store lol! We both laughed and smirked away. He wanted to buy it as a prop for a photo shoots we may do together or for other shoots He may want to do. We may not always get to play on the dark side as much as we would like to. But even on days when we aren't playing, there are always little things we say to one another, that remind us of our bond. 

I love Master's spontaneous side! He can and does often come up with creative and mischievous things to do with the naughty side. He's an amazing kisser, lover and Master. He keeps me and our fur pack safe and warm. He always does His best at whatever He does. 

I'm a very lucky girl to have such a loving Master. 

May your days and nights be full of Kink!

Lixxs and Spanxs!

Sweet November Nibbles

Oh the raining, windy weather is enough to put anyone in a cave until Spring, isn't it!? 

Well, I think it is a perfect opportunity to explore and play with new toys and to try new scenes with your play partner. Go to upcoming events like the Whistler Lifestyle take over this weekend! Master and I won a weekend pass to attend and are excited to be going. If you are interested in what's happening check out www.whistlerlifestyle.com. 

So go and enjoy whatever makes you hot and wet with anticipation

banner courtesy of  emerson-ringrose

If you are curious about going but aren't sure what Whistler Lifestyle is all about, here are a few testimonials from previous years. 

http://www.whistlerlifestyle.com/testimonials/

Lixxs and Spanxs!

Happy Thanksgiving Canada!

Master and I have enjoyed our Thanksgiving weekend a lot! Last night, we went to see our kinky friends TP and enjoy a beautiful home cooked meal. Its always a good time when you are in a room full of vanilla peeps and we are subtly doing suggestive kink things that others won't catch on to lol.

My g/f T and I were giggling because she had some food on the side of her mouth, I went to wipe it off and she said "care to lick it off" I said with a giggle and a grin, "somehow we would shock your company" lol.

There was a very loud fundraising event two doors down and at times we were all outside, sharing stories of what it was like for all of us when we would go to parties like that. I miss those days! Master working in the career he does, always is good for many laughs at his experiences of setting up stages for bands to play on.

Not long after we all sat down for the festive turkey dinner. Everyone had brought an item so there was a lot of food! I brought carrots made with butter, brown sugar and nutmeg, they were a huge hit!

I was sitting beside Master and I was serving food onto His plate. I told Him that I wanted to be His good girl and serve Him. He said "I didn't realize it was "that" kind of dinner" lol. I said Master, I enjoy serving you even if it isn't lol. He squeezed my leg under the table, which made me smile.

Its fun adding D/s to our evenings when we are out. Even the smallest of things, makes us smile.  Even when Master spanks my butt in front of company, many will laugh not even knowing that to U/us it means something company different than what they know!

Spankings Me!

Master took this photo of me recently. He teased me horribly!! Pinching my boobies and making me stand with my hands behind my back! Then we went out for the day and I had to make sure my nipples were erect all day! You should have seen the looks from peeps LOL! I even had a man come up to me and compliment me! Master was very proud of his girl!!  I love being his good girl! 

What would you use to spank my boobs? I love having them spanked and slapped. I also love having my nipples pinched! 

We are going to an event this weekend, I can't wait!! Its been a while since we have gone out to a public event. We are taking some new friends with us!! I love watching the awe and amazement in their eyes as they adjust to seeing how the kink world enjoys themselves! 

Happy Thursday!!

Lixxs and Spanks!

Sierra

Privacy and Kink

As many of you are no doubt aware, there has been a story published about someone who has a kink lifestyle. The sad thing is, the photos that were used, a portion of them were not of this person. While the person in question may lead a position in society that some deem should be seen as higher than the rest of us,  quite a few of us feel that what a person does behind closed doors and on their own time, is no one's business. 

Now I realize that there is more to this story, I know that people not involved in the matter are now involved and never asked to be. I am aware that others have been contacted as the story was being built before it was published, albeit erroneously.

What needs to be remembered is that a person's family, career, friendships, neighbors, colleagues will all more than likely quietly pass judgment on this person's life. People in our BDSM community have been stepping up and sharing their knowledge and experience with the lifestyle as well as bringing to light the fact that we aren't crazy people who just grab strangers off the street, we are healthy minded individuals, that happen to share safe, sane and CONSENSUAL sex. 

Rainy Days & Masturbation Marathon

Happy Hump Day/Evening to all my pervy friends in the social universe! 


I was chatting with my friend today on Twitter SensualSierra and padmeamidala and she came up with a fabulous kinky idea of having a Masturbation Marathon from all of our Twitter friends! I personally love it and told her that I challenge her, just as I am challenging all of you! 

Lixxs & Spanxs!


Sierra

Obligations and Reality

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