Missing my Kink

Gosh where do I begin? For those of you are are still around, THANK YOU!

I've been going through a lot health wise and it has really made me miss my kinky side.

Recently Master and I went to Rascals and had a really good time. We even played out in public! He made me my new play collar and I absolutely love it!! It was then that I realized that Master and I really need to connect on the dark side much more!!

I also went to a Subbie Tea 2 weeks ago, that was the 1st in a very long time. It was lovely to see my sisters and to be able to laugh and hold topics of conversation for a few hours.

Master and I have gone to poly discussions, which have been very informative and have opened us up to friendships.

My health has been doing much better and I look forward to posting more and more.

Licks and Spanxs!

How I See My Master

I know it has been a long time, (a few months) since I have written. There have been a variety of reasons, but now that things are starting to return to better paths, I thought I would do an update. 

I wrote this recently and am going to share it here:

Over two and half years ago you can into my life, literally by a drive to an event that cancelled suddenly. Never had I felt so comfortable as we chatted while you drove to and from the event. Your ease to make me laugh, your sexy voice was all I had known, other than a profile picture of sexy man's chest.

During our conversations, not once did I ever see a photo of you til that evening you decided to drive back from the cancelled event and we spoke of meeting. You graciously went to Tim Hortons and picked up my steeped tea and you your triple triple. When you returned, you came to my home (something I seldom, if ever allowed anyone to come to) that was the very first time I had ever seen your face, the entire person, no longer just a voice and torso. Talk about a handsome and sexy man!

As our days and weeks went by, we realized we are joined. We both just knew that we are meant to be together.

I have no words to describe the passion you bring out in me. When we have done a scene, you have always made sure to have everything I need for when I return from sub drop. Your arms surrounding me, making me feel safe, always. Even so much as to make sure the next day, how I was and if I needed anything.

I smile with appreciation when I have seen you do a scene with another submissive. To see your floggers dance across the flesh, rhythm flowing to music that pulsates through your veins.

In our day to day life, you have always had my best interests. Through surgery, recovery and physical pain, you never wavered. My mental health has been a challenge, yet with your support and communication, you have shown me that not all run away. You have given me acceptance and returning of trust, something I thought I had long since lost.

You understand me, you encourage me and challenge me.

I am proud to be your submissive and love you with all that I am.

Transparent Life

My Dominant and I have remained in touch for many years. We flirt, we text, we send messages on Fetlife, its nice to have that connection.

He is someone I look to for friendship and support. Our friendship has grown and although we don't see one another very often, what with work, commitments, you know how life can be like that.  There is no judgment with Him, just as there are no judgments from my primary, Master C.

I've been there for Him the last few weeks as has my fellow slave sister. He has been going through numerous tests and the results finally come through yesterday.

My Dominant is about to go through some life changes and I plan on being there for Him, as my slave sister will be as well.  He needs that right now, someone to help Him adjust to new medications, proper healthy foods as well as making sure He remains in as good a spirits as possible.

Being poly to me doesn't mean just sexually.  Polyamory means having a loving relationship with more than one person. It means being romantic with more than one person.  To go back to the word itself, it means investing amorous emotions in more than one person.

Master C and I are very transparent with one another.  It means that everyone, including my Dominant, knows what the other is doing, who they are seeing and who they are sleeping with. No one engages in NSA sex, everyone knows their sexual partners well enough to know their particular relationship will continue for awhile and that it will be based on more than just casual sex; everyone respects one another and their is always mutual sensitivity towards everyone's feelings.

In other words, it is not about "just" sex.
It is about love.

Are you?

I've been chatting with my former Dominant. We have always remained close and we have played over the years. Master has met him and there are no issues with me playing with Him.

I also have a close friendship with Him. He said that He knows He will always get the truth from me. Its nice to know that my words are valued. I am also this way in my submission. When I choose to be a submissive to Master or to this Dominant, I take it very seriously because I know that being a good girl is what makes them happy as well as myself. I find when I am doing what makes me happy, it shows in my service.

I've not had a poly relationship in a while. Sometimes I miss it, other times I am wrapped up in my other projects. But somehow I always remember my place. If not, I get reminded!

How about you? Are you in a poly relationship?

Negotiating

Today was subbie tea day! I've not been in quite sometime and I very nearly didn't attend. I've been having a lot of trouble with getting sleep and subsequently my mood and energy is lacking. But Master insisted I go, He was going to be doing some renovations to our bathroom while I was away. 

I got to our subbie tea location and as usual our hostess, with the mostess, has outdone herself. Always conscious of allergies and food concerns for everyone. There was 1% milk, almond milk and soy milk for your tea and coffee. To gluten free foods, fresh fruits with chocolate for dipping, vegetables with a herb dip as well as spinach dip with homemade made bread to go with it.  It is a great time to catch up with other submissive people as well as discuss the day's topic which was: 

THE ART OF NEGOTIATION

This topic wasn't just for new people to the bdsm kink community. It is always great to have a refresher. For me today this refresher was in the discussion of safe words and realizing there are many different ways to get your safe word out. 

1. You can use visual "safe words" as they are excellent for when you are at a public play party and it is noisy. Or if you have a ball gag in your mouth.  An example of a visual can be a yellow ball in one hand and a red ball in the other hand. They can represent your level of acceptance.
2. You can use a small object and toss it on the floor or towards your Top when you have reached your "red" level of acceptance (if that is what you have negotiated). 

I found this topic refreshing as I have been in the bdsm community for 5 years this year and it is always good to go over your check list of what you are ok with watching, what you won't do, what you love and what you are curious about. 

Always remember there is NEVER to be any negotiation once a scene has started. 

That all limits are off the table until discussed. THEN and only THEN are the ones agreed to, are the ones allowed. NEVER allow a Top to introduce during a scene a change that you did not consent to. 

Always remember that negotiations will always be ongoing, as you evolve and grow. Mine have and I'm sure yours have or will the longer you are in the Community. 

Spanxs and Lixxs

Happy Thanksgiving Canada!

Master and I have enjoyed our Thanksgiving weekend a lot! Last night, we went to see our kinky friends TP and enjoy a beautiful home cooked meal. Its always a good time when you are in a room full of vanilla peeps and we are subtly doing suggestive kink things that others won't catch on to lol.

My g/f T and I were giggling because she had some food on the side of her mouth, I went to wipe it off and she said "care to lick it off" I said with a giggle and a grin, "somehow we would shock your company" lol.

There was a very loud fundraising event two doors down and at times we were all outside, sharing stories of what it was like for all of us when we would go to parties like that. I miss those days! Master working in the career he does, always is good for many laughs at his experiences of setting up stages for bands to play on.

Not long after we all sat down for the festive turkey dinner. Everyone had brought an item so there was a lot of food! I brought carrots made with butter, brown sugar and nutmeg, they were a huge hit!

I was sitting beside Master and I was serving food onto His plate. I told Him that I wanted to be His good girl and serve Him. He said "I didn't realize it was "that" kind of dinner" lol. I said Master, I enjoy serving you even if it isn't lol. He squeezed my leg under the table, which made me smile.

Its fun adding D/s to our evenings when we are out. Even the smallest of things, makes us smile.  Even when Master spanks my butt in front of company, many will laugh not even knowing that to U/us it means something company different than what they know!

Feel Good Friday!!

Well its finally Friday! How many of you have kinky plans this weekend? Master and I do have plans tonight and tomorrow night! Tonight we are going to a bbq with kinkster that we are taking to our public event tomorrow. We are bringing some homemade chicken wings tonight and we get to enjoy the warmth of their hot tub and fire pit! 

Its going to be a hot night! Master and I are nudists and the hot tub is clothing optional, YIPEE! I love the feeling of the warm water on my skin, the jets against my back. Not sure if we are going to be doing any playing tonight, but we will see! Perhaps I can take some pics and post them over the weekend!

Very recently, I had some body art done. I have waited for a good year for this wonderful and very sexy lady to do this for me. It was such a sensual experience, too feel the paint caress my skin, softly and easily. The colors of green and white chosen to go with the hazel of my eyes.  I'm posting a photo below, I'd love to hear what you think of it. Master has many more as we did an impromptu photo shoot, he promises to get them finished so we can not only send them to our friend who did the painting, but so we can share them with you, our blogger friends! 

I just love how everything blended so beautifully, even my dog got into the shot lol! 

Happy Friday Everyone, 

Lixxs,

Sierra

Gracious Host~ A Kinky Evening ~ Mediterranean Style

The ambiance was set before we even got there, I in my red corset and mini skirt, Sir in his leathers. The evening was the inaugural Gracious Host event, we all had been looking forward to it.

The theme was Mediterranean food, the menu looked amazing and all we had to do was co-ordinate with others as to who would bring what wasn't already covered. We opted for wine and mini pumpkin tarts.

There were a few of us, not too many just the right amount. It wasn't long before various conversations ensued over drinks and some lovely flogging toys!! Now you wouldn't expect an inaugural dinner to have kinky toys, but this was no ordinary gathering of new found friends *grins*

The topic quickly turned to the beauty of the floggers and let's not forget the crops!! It wasn't long before the question would be ask "so whose going to receive". I grinned but felt pretty confident it wouldn't be me, but I had my thoughts on who it may! The lil fun loving brat was working well tonight, and she had met another equally fun loving and bratty. Oh the trouble we both could get into if left to our own devices!

Not too long before appetizers made room for the main meal, gradually we all dished up commenting on the various colors, the smells and succulent aromas were floating through the room. The candles were lit, the roses were sensual in their beauty, the autumn leaves laying beautifully across the dining table. The themed colors of red, mixed with various Fall colors, setting the tone.

Our Gracious Hostess had outdone herself and deserved to reap the rewards of compliments and toasts.  Appetites that had been waiting for what seemed like many hours were mere moments away from the main course. Lively in our conversations I took a moment to sit back and take in the moment, you couldn't have asked for anything better. A moment to see what a gathering of what had started out as strangers had now become acquaintances, were on the way to becoming fast friends. Some had connections not known before, the world ever smaller than we like to realize it is.

The next gathering will have a challenge of outdoing our Gracious Host - however the Kink part will always be there - but the next theme ought to be interesting.

Please feel free to share your comments and ideas below. I love to hear from my readers!

Love, Live and Laughter

Sierra