July 11, 2012


Munches are a chance to get together with like minded people in our kink community. For a lot of new people, this is often a great place to start your journey. 

Last night Master and I attended our monthly munch in our area of town. It was a great turn out, conversations were vibrant, friendly and lots of laughter. Munches give everyone a chance to meet, to be able to put faces to names (especially if you belong to a social networking site). It allows you to make real time connections that bridge the BDSM world and vanilla. 

There is no cost to attend, the only money spent is what you eat or drink. Often many of us giggle at how the waiter or waitress is usually surprised at the turn out and how they going to keep track of everyone's menu order LOL! 

Most often people have commented how easy going people are, that they don't feel judged and are made to feel welcome. 

Master and I highly recommend attending the many different munches that are available in our communities. 

Enjoy the beautiful, long overdue summertime weather!

July 9, 2012

Privacy and Kink

As many of you are no doubt aware, there has been a story published about someone who has a kink lifestyle. The sad thing is, the photos that were used, a portion of them were not of this person. While the person in question may lead a position in society that some deem should be seen as higher than the rest of us,  quite a few of us feel that what a person does behind closed doors and on their own time, is no one's business. 

Now I realize that there is more to this story, I know that people not involved in the matter are now involved and never asked to be. I am aware that others have been contacted as the story was being built before it was published, albeit erroneously.

What needs to be remembered is that a person's family, career, friendships, neighbors, colleagues will all more than likely quietly pass judgment on this person's life. People in our BDSM community have been stepping up and sharing their knowledge and experience with the lifestyle as well as bringing to light the fact that we aren't crazy people who just grab strangers off the street, we are healthy minded individuals, that happen to share safe, sane and CONSENSUAL sex. 

July 2, 2012

Poly Dating

I've been on a couple of dates now with a potential play partner. I must admit it is a very different approach in that other than holding hands and kissing him, that's all there has been in the way of intimate contact! I find it reminds of "back in the day" where young couples dating didn't rush to have sex.

He's a very easy going man, older than I. His hands are soft as I think his soul may be as well. Master and I have talked about my time with this person and He really feels that my dates could lead to something long term, but as I have said to Master, I am cautious because the road I've been on has often come into contact with those that claim they are poly and end up not being that a all. 

I will post more in the coming days.

Lixs and Spanxs!


July 1, 2012

Happy Canada Day!!

Master wishes me Happy Canada Day this morning and for the first time in a long time, I felt immense pride in my country! I know we have problems and we have issues, much like anywhere else, yet I know in my heart I will always know my home to be about Cherry blossom trees, waterfalls and the Pacific Ocean. 

Master has also given me a task to do. He has asked to see a gratitude list. I know He is right to ask me to put one together. There are many things to be grateful for and sometimes we all need a reminder of this. 

Things I am Grateful For:

  1. The love and support of my Master, without Him to push me at times, I would feel very stuck.
  2. The love and support of my fur family, who even through Miss Ella's insane wake up times, shows me love every single day.
  3. To be able to own my home. 
  4. To be able to own my own vehicle allowing me to be independent.
  5. To be able to grow my own vegetables
  6. The support of my therapists.
  7. My health
  8. Appreciate that life is hard, but so worth it!
  9. Being able to continue to explore being poly.
  10. Being able to learn to trust.
  11. My online friends.
  12. My friendships in our kink community.
  13. My friendship with padmeamidala

These are just a few things I am grateful for. I know there are more and am sure I will update through the year! 

Lixxs and Spanxs!