What's It Like to Be Collared?

I wore one once, and in my nativity it was I who bought it for my then Dom, thinking because it was what I wanted that He would appreciate my initiative in choosing this myself. When we parted ways, I gave it to Him, thinking it was His property. As I said I was new and with someone who thought he was a Dominant. Many years later, it is clear He never was.

Years have come and gone, as has life, but I have always wondered what it would be like to be collared. What's it like to have a ceremony? What's it like to look in the mirror and see that I am someone's property?

I imagine my self esteem would increase because there isn't just my own sense of self worth that rises, but the pride my Dom/Sir/Master would have in me.

I am in a open relationship and My Sir is my Primary I am not collared.

For me to be collared I've imaged feeling a sense of pride, not just in who I am as a person, but pride in that I am chosen to represent a piece of our unity together.

How I See My Master

I know it has been a long time, (a few months) since I have written. There have been a variety of reasons, but now that things are starting to return to better paths, I thought I would do an update. 

I wrote this recently and am going to share it here:

Over two and half years ago you can into my life, literally by a drive to an event that cancelled suddenly. Never had I felt so comfortable as we chatted while you drove to and from the event. Your ease to make me laugh, your sexy voice was all I had known, other than a profile picture of sexy man's chest.

During our conversations, not once did I ever see a photo of you til that evening you decided to drive back from the cancelled event and we spoke of meeting. You graciously went to Tim Hortons and picked up my steeped tea and you your triple triple. When you returned, you came to my home (something I seldom, if ever allowed anyone to come to) that was the very first time I had ever seen your face, the entire person, no longer just a voice and torso. Talk about a handsome and sexy man!

As our days and weeks went by, we realized we are joined. We both just knew that we are meant to be together.

I have no words to describe the passion you bring out in me. When we have done a scene, you have always made sure to have everything I need for when I return from sub drop. Your arms surrounding me, making me feel safe, always. Even so much as to make sure the next day, how I was and if I needed anything.

I smile with appreciation when I have seen you do a scene with another submissive. To see your floggers dance across the flesh, rhythm flowing to music that pulsates through your veins.

In our day to day life, you have always had my best interests. Through surgery, recovery and physical pain, you never wavered. My mental health has been a challenge, yet with your support and communication, you have shown me that not all run away. You have given me acceptance and returning of trust, something I thought I had long since lost.

You understand me, you encourage me and challenge me.

I am proud to be your submissive and love you with all that I am.

Stress release spanking

Lately things at home have been a bit hectic and stressful. Master has been busy with working and that takes Him away from home for many hours, as long as 16 hours!! Master treats me so very well, I am very lucky to be His submissive. Master allows me as much time as I need on the computer as He knows I have more than one blog that I write, as well as keeping in contact with the volunteer organization we work with and at times there is a flurry of activity that can't always wait til later or the next day. I also have unlimited text messaging usage, however, if Master wants my time, I shut everything down and focus on Him and His needs. That is just the way our M/s relationship is and I wouldn't change it for anything! 

We don't get to play very much, it seems that things just get the better of us. I sure do miss those heavy spankings where I feel the stress just melt away from me and the warmth of my ass shiny and warm! I'm always wondering how we will play, what with our several pets LOL! 

I love it when Master gets His toys out. I get wet and excited when I see them laid out in front of me. Master will being spanking me with His hand, I never count how many He has done because I start to become focused on our play together. I usually don't know which toy He will pick up and use on my ass. I do have favorites but I know He does too *wink*. 

During our play Master will ask me to spread my legs, He likes to look at my shaven pussy, freshly tidy just for Him. When I spread my legs for Him, it doesn't matter if I am on the St. Andrew's Cross or on our bed and on all 4's, His happiness is all that matters. I love being his "Good Girl". 

There are times where I will ask Master to spank me harder, that I want it to be difficult to sit down. Of course Master, always obliges :). I've had play where my ass has been so red that welts and bruising have been the gifts of my time with Him. Master will bite my neck, and growl. Oh how I love it when He growls and demands I cum for Him. I love it when He says "Cum girl, Cum for me". Oh the power of those words, and the orgasm that follows! Thank you Master for making me cum so hard for you!  Thank you for using me and taking me to your darkside! 

Master is a sensual dominant, in that He is a very caring and loving Master, but don't think He can't be strict! If I am not to move and I do, boy do I get a paddle for it! If Master asks how I am doing, I will always tell Him how I am feeling. It is very important to our scene that He knows if I am ok or not. We don't pay attention to time. When we play, we are in the moment and all that matters is us. I miss those times together. 

I love it when Master ties me up. Lately he has been practicing some new rope work and boy does it look hot! I can't wait to wear the "rope panties" He has been working on perfecting! So hot! I love when Master puts clothes pegs and/or other implements on my tits to make my nipples erect and hard. My body becoming  tingly and numb with the pegs on my nipples, but then when He removes them there are no words to describe the intensity of what feels like pain, only to have it bring you to orgasm! 

I always love how submissive I feel after we have played on the dark side. I love cuddling with Him, sitting at His feet, feeling safe and warm in His love for me.

I've had people ask me what is it about spankings that I like. My answer is pretty simple, I enjoy the arousal and feeling of being wet and knowing that Master also enjoys our play together. I love the warmth of my ass, I love seeing the marks after our play. I really enjoy our sex after a scene too!  

I hope we will be able to have some stress release spankings very, very soon! 

Lixxs and Spanxs! 

Grinding in the laundry room - fucked in the bedroom

Yep its one of THOSE kinds of posts lol!

Sleepy Sunday mornings, where I am doing laundry and Master comes in to check something and slides his body parallel to mine.  His cock alerts me to his sexual desires as Master lifts my naughty nightie exposing my flesh....

I get onto our bed, on all fours, nightie (very short and sexy) slipped above my waist exposing my ass. Master fondles every part of my body asking me if I have missed Him. Naturally I say I have, as He fingers my pussy, preparing me for what is to come.

I feel the tip of His cock playing with my pussy lips, the lube sliding around and making everything nice and slippery. SMACK, goes His hand on my ass, telling me how much He has missed my ass, THRUST as grabs my hips and says that they are the sexiest hips and are happy they are His.

I could go on.... but use your imagination, share your thoughts, let me know what you would like to see as the result of our morning....

Changes

I've been going through my profile on Fetlife and removing and adding topics and "likes".

What about about yourself? Do you go through your lists? Friends, Kinks, Likes/Dislikes/ Forums?

What do you feel it says about you?

I feel pretty good about going through and making changes. I feel it shows where my growth is and it also has it has given me a chance to add forums I hadn't been able to find before.

I love being kinky, having fetishes, friendships in the Community with like minded people.

Kink is good!

Are you?

I've been chatting with my former Dominant. We have always remained close and we have played over the years. Master has met him and there are no issues with me playing with Him.

I also have a close friendship with Him. He said that He knows He will always get the truth from me. Its nice to know that my words are valued. I am also this way in my submission. When I choose to be a submissive to Master or to this Dominant, I take it very seriously because I know that being a good girl is what makes them happy as well as myself. I find when I am doing what makes me happy, it shows in my service.

I've not had a poly relationship in a while. Sometimes I miss it, other times I am wrapped up in my other projects. But somehow I always remember my place. If not, I get reminded!

How about you? Are you in a poly relationship?

Spanking thoughts

I have been thinking.... and yes I do that a lot *giggles*

Do any of you go through periods of where there isn't play? Could be from an illness, busyness of life, etc.

How do you make sure to get your "spank on" when you can't always play as you once did?

Do you (submissive/slave) get permission from your Master/Sir to spank yourself?
Do you (if your single) make sure to feed your craving on your own?
Do you ask your Master/Sir for some play time?

I'd be very interested to hear your suggestions and thoughts!

Happy Tuesday Everyone!!

Spanxs and Lixxs!

Expectations in D/s

I have been really reflecting on my life in the kink community. Don't get me wrong I love it in many ways, and yet I'm left to wonder....to what capacity do I want to be instructed to the depths of my day?

It is clear that my role as a Switch leads me to be very dominant at times in my vanilla life, that it does test most Tops.  There is definitely the rush of endorphins when topping a boy who is craving that push into subspace. Yet, when I look at MY role as a bottom in my D/s relationships, I can certainly see where the bratty yet sensual and sexy side comes into play.

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Some would say "why do it", why be that lil brat that some Dominants will not tolerate? I believe it is because I expect to be put into line, after all that is what this submissive craves. The structure, the consequences, the attention, the building up of what is to come. However, there are times where lines do get crossed, boundaries can in the NRE (new relationship energy phase) as well, mostly because we are learning about one another and growing in the relationship and the brat had no intention of revealing herself.

I have been presented with an opportunity to help train a submissive in ways that I never thought I would. The negotiations are still being worked out and details are yet to come, but so far all that has been discussed looks promising.

The fluidity of D/s really depends on the relationship and experience of the Dominant and Submissive. I use submissive as that is what I am. I've tried to explore the idea of being Slave, but for me it is not possible to comfortably and wholly release my power to an individual with the expectation He will take care of my every need.

must be why that makes me a Switch.

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Love, Live and Laughter

Sierra