What's It Like to Be Collared?

I wore one once, and in my nativity it was I who bought it for my then Dom, thinking because it was what I wanted that He would appreciate my initiative in choosing this myself. When we parted ways, I gave it to Him, thinking it was His property. As I said I was new and with someone who thought he was a Dominant. Many years later, it is clear He never was.

Years have come and gone, as has life, but I have always wondered what it would be like to be collared. What's it like to have a ceremony? What's it like to look in the mirror and see that I am someone's property?

I imagine my self esteem would increase because there isn't just my own sense of self worth that rises, but the pride my Dom/Sir/Master would have in me.

I am in a open relationship and My Sir is my Primary I am not collared.

For me to be collared I've imaged feeling a sense of pride, not just in who I am as a person, but pride in that I am chosen to represent a piece of our unity together.

When eating

or licking your Master/Mistress cock or pussy what do you enjoy the most? Is there something you look for in scent and taste? Have you ever discussed with your Master/Mistress foods to avoid when going down on them? Some may say they will eat what they want and you will just suck it up. Others, as has been my experience, will actually discuss this topic. I think it is important because if you don't enjoy licking pussy or sucking cock and it is an important part of your sexual relationship, this could cause some serious problems.

I know for me, I've learned over the years what fruits enhance the flavor of cum in a positive way. I'm not a huge cum lover, but I do like sucking cock. I love to feel the hardness as it goes down my throat, I love deep throating and I love how my spit makes Master's cock look.

What makes a good cock sucker? What makes a good pussy licker? Is it texture? Is it scent? Is it attention to detail?

Discuss!

TGIF!!

Something came across my path this morning and it triggered a thought. What does the word play mean to you? 

As many of you know Master and I are poly. However, I've been struggling with my feelings around that right now, it is most likely to do with my growth and changes I have been going through in my vanilla life as I come to acceptance of some things. 

Play to me can mean sex or it can mean doing a public or private scene.  For me, negotiating and discussion on what is understood is huge. I never leave anything to be assumed.

When Master says do you want to play? I know he is referring to a scene that usually incorporates sex into our time together. In fact most if not all my play partners in my BDSM experience sex has always been a factor. But what does it mean to you? 

There are people who do not incorporate sexual activity into their relationships. In fact, "back in the day" sex had nothing to do with BDSM scenes. I often have wondered if it is the combination of arisen endorphin's, sexual chemistry and energy, that have encouraged physical intimacy? 

If it is your first time playing, emotions can and often do come to the surface, causing you to potentially feel like you have found your partner, your life mate, when on his/her side it was nothing more than part of a scene, the moment now long past, he/she has gone on about their life; yet you are still riding the waves of your experience, hoping for more and often! I know what that feels like, I'm sure a few of us know what that feels like, especially when you haven't had a mentor to advise you and teach you what to look for. 

When I am at a swinging event, play means "let's have sex". I've never heard it used any other way. 

Master has been talking to someone who is very interested in Him. She is eager to play, yet I do not know what that means to her. My gut and assumption says it is sex, but does it? She is new to the lifestyle, and I remember what it was like to be exposed to all the excitement and wonder. Wanting to feel every emotion, every flogger, spank and blind fold. To being that kid in the proverbial candy store wanting to eat every sweet, succulent yummy bit of sugar you can touch, til you are overloaded. 

It leaves me uneasy.