Thursday's Licking

So needs a good licking, playing with my ring and clit..... make it happen.

Happy Thursday!

Lixxs and Spanxs!

Missing my Kink

Gosh where do I begin? For those of you are are still around, THANK YOU!

I've been going through a lot health wise and it has really made me miss my kinky side.

Recently Master and I went to Rascals and had a really good time. We even played out in public! He made me my new play collar and I absolutely love it!! It was then that I realized that Master and I really need to connect on the dark side much more!!

I also went to a Subbie Tea 2 weeks ago, that was the 1st in a very long time. It was lovely to see my sisters and to be able to laugh and hold topics of conversation for a few hours.

Master and I have gone to poly discussions, which have been very informative and have opened us up to friendships.

My health has been doing much better and I look forward to posting more and more.

Licks and Spanxs!

Negotiating

Today was subbie tea day! I've not been in quite sometime and I very nearly didn't attend. I've been having a lot of trouble with getting sleep and subsequently my mood and energy is lacking. But Master insisted I go, He was going to be doing some renovations to our bathroom while I was away. 

I got to our subbie tea location and as usual our hostess, with the mostess, has outdone herself. Always conscious of allergies and food concerns for everyone. There was 1% milk, almond milk and soy milk for your tea and coffee. To gluten free foods, fresh fruits with chocolate for dipping, vegetables with a herb dip as well as spinach dip with homemade made bread to go with it.  It is a great time to catch up with other submissive people as well as discuss the day's topic which was: 

THE ART OF NEGOTIATION

This topic wasn't just for new people to the bdsm kink community. It is always great to have a refresher. For me today this refresher was in the discussion of safe words and realizing there are many different ways to get your safe word out. 

1. You can use visual "safe words" as they are excellent for when you are at a public play party and it is noisy. Or if you have a ball gag in your mouth.  An example of a visual can be a yellow ball in one hand and a red ball in the other hand. They can represent your level of acceptance.
2. You can use a small object and toss it on the floor or towards your Top when you have reached your "red" level of acceptance (if that is what you have negotiated). 

I found this topic refreshing as I have been in the bdsm community for 5 years this year and it is always good to go over your check list of what you are ok with watching, what you won't do, what you love and what you are curious about. 

Always remember there is NEVER to be any negotiation once a scene has started. 

That all limits are off the table until discussed. THEN and only THEN are the ones agreed to, are the ones allowed. NEVER allow a Top to introduce during a scene a change that you did not consent to. 

Always remember that negotiations will always be ongoing, as you evolve and grow. Mine have and I'm sure yours have or will the longer you are in the Community. 

Spanxs and Lixxs

Thank you Padme amidala

My good friend whose blog  Journey to the Darkside  is one I follow and read regularly. 

Today she spoke on her Twitter profile padmeamidala about crossing things off her bucket list. Well, I realized that is something I hadn't done since I posted my Bucket List  back in February of this year.  So I went through it and I can happily say there are quite a few things I have done!! So I wanted to acknowledge them and to you my readers, encourage you to write your own bucket list. It is so important what you want to do and then realize you have done them!

Work on my weight loss and get back to my karate weight 

Work on my cardiovascular

Add exercises every day or other day til I am at 30 to 45 mins.

Take Blaze (my dog) to Tynehead Park and walk an hour at least once a week

Learn how to use YouTube 

Learn how to make money online with PTC (Point to Click)

Expand my vegetable garden 

Enjoy a Hot Stone Massage 

Have a Long Term Savings account

Check out Allure 

Create an income from online sites

See the Northern Lights

Ride a mechanical bull

This really taught me the power of having a bucket list. I feel really good to know that there are a few things I have done and today I even added some that I hadn't thought about before, but definitely want to do.