Negotiating

Today was subbie tea day! I've not been in quite sometime and I very nearly didn't attend. I've been having a lot of trouble with getting sleep and subsequently my mood and energy is lacking. But Master insisted I go, He was going to be doing some renovations to our bathroom while I was away. 

I got to our subbie tea location and as usual our hostess, with the mostess, has outdone herself. Always conscious of allergies and food concerns for everyone. There was 1% milk, almond milk and soy milk for your tea and coffee. To gluten free foods, fresh fruits with chocolate for dipping, vegetables with a herb dip as well as spinach dip with homemade made bread to go with it.  It is a great time to catch up with other submissive people as well as discuss the day's topic which was: 

THE ART OF NEGOTIATION

This topic wasn't just for new people to the bdsm kink community. It is always great to have a refresher. For me today this refresher was in the discussion of safe words and realizing there are many different ways to get your safe word out. 

1. You can use visual "safe words" as they are excellent for when you are at a public play party and it is noisy. Or if you have a ball gag in your mouth.  An example of a visual can be a yellow ball in one hand and a red ball in the other hand. They can represent your level of acceptance.
2. You can use a small object and toss it on the floor or towards your Top when you have reached your "red" level of acceptance (if that is what you have negotiated). 

I found this topic refreshing as I have been in the bdsm community for 5 years this year and it is always good to go over your check list of what you are ok with watching, what you won't do, what you love and what you are curious about. 

Always remember there is NEVER to be any negotiation once a scene has started. 

That all limits are off the table until discussed. THEN and only THEN are the ones agreed to, are the ones allowed. NEVER allow a Top to introduce during a scene a change that you did not consent to. 

Always remember that negotiations will always be ongoing, as you evolve and grow. Mine have and I'm sure yours have or will the longer you are in the Community. 

Spanxs and Lixxs

Happy Thanksgiving Canada!

Master and I have enjoyed our Thanksgiving weekend a lot! Last night, we went to see our kinky friends TP and enjoy a beautiful home cooked meal. Its always a good time when you are in a room full of vanilla peeps and we are subtly doing suggestive kink things that others won't catch on to lol.

My g/f T and I were giggling because she had some food on the side of her mouth, I went to wipe it off and she said "care to lick it off" I said with a giggle and a grin, "somehow we would shock your company" lol.

There was a very loud fundraising event two doors down and at times we were all outside, sharing stories of what it was like for all of us when we would go to parties like that. I miss those days! Master working in the career he does, always is good for many laughs at his experiences of setting up stages for bands to play on.

Not long after we all sat down for the festive turkey dinner. Everyone had brought an item so there was a lot of food! I brought carrots made with butter, brown sugar and nutmeg, they were a huge hit!

I was sitting beside Master and I was serving food onto His plate. I told Him that I wanted to be His good girl and serve Him. He said "I didn't realize it was "that" kind of dinner" lol. I said Master, I enjoy serving you even if it isn't lol. He squeezed my leg under the table, which made me smile.

Its fun adding D/s to our evenings when we are out. Even the smallest of things, makes us smile.  Even when Master spanks my butt in front of company, many will laugh not even knowing that to U/us it means something company different than what they know!

Valentines Day!!

Yes, it is THAT day where a cupid is apparently shooting arrows to those needing direction! 

Today I woke up to my Master saying those words to me, and followed with a hug and a kiss.  Something so simple, yet so meaningful!

After not having someone in my life to share any day with, let alone this day, or worse yet, having someone who could care less about this day or any other day. 

So I did some research online to see what others do on this red filled heart day! This is what I found out: http://www.timeanddate.com/holidays/canada/valentine-day

"Many people send letters, cards, presents and gifts to the person with whom they have or want to have a romantic relationship. Valentine's Day cards are often red or pink and decorated with images of hearts, red roses, teddy bears, presents or happy couples kissing or embracing. They may be in brightly colored, perhaps pink or red, envelopes.

Many people give gifts to loved ones on Valentine's Day. Common gifts are:

• Flowers, particularly red roses.
• Chocolates and/or candy.
• Teddy bears.
• Toy hearts.
• Sparkling wine.
• Cosmetics.
• Clothing, including lingerie.
• Jewelry.

Some people celebrate Valentine's Day lavishly. They may treat their partner to a themed meal in a restaurant or a night in a luxury hotel. Others may take short breaks or vacations on Valentine’s Day.

Valentine's Day can also be an occasion for a more general celebration of love and appreciation of people who are personally important to an individual. School children may help decorate their classrooms with hearts and spring birds and make cards or presents for their parents. Stores may also sell Valentine's Day themed cakes, cookies or candy. Teenagers and young adults may hold Valentine's Day parties or dances on or near February 14."

I'm curious though, if you are spiritual in nature, how do you embrace Valentine's Day? 

I found this article and an excerpt from it, that really resonated with me, and something I know not enough of us do... and that is courtesy of the  Huffington Post Meditation Center

"The focus for Valentine's Day is a unique twist on the what the day has come to mean: before showering your love and affection on someone else (which is a decidedly cool thing to do every day!), how about starting with a simple focus on loving yourself first?

It has been said that we should give from our overflow and Donna's meditation today begins with the premise that the more loving we have inside, the more we have to share with others."

I also want my single followers to know, that I am being mindful of yourselves, and I know the saying "Single Awareness Day" feels more announced today than on any other day. Other than society creating a huge hoopla with celebratory gifts and tokens to loved ones, the thing I want you all to know is this 

In my eyes, you are ALL my Valentine!!

Birthday Spanks !

First off I would like to thank Mija, you created a wonderful idea about Advent blogging and keeping up daily. This taught me that for me, life happened to get very stressful in ways no one can prepare for. It also taught me, that it isn't as easy to think of what to write everyday either lol. A new goal for me, not sure, just yet. 

So on to the topic at hand..... I thought I would post about the birthday spanks I received for my birthday this past Friday. 

Being that I have a birthday right smack dab in the Christmas Season, I am accustomed to not having anything celebratory... well that is... until some kinky friends were having a get together and the invitation was extended to myself. It should be noted that none of them knew it was my birthday that very day when the invitation was sent. 

Birthday Spanks Received

I had a very warm bum and yesterday I had lovely purple marks to remind me of my special day.  Special friends for a special day. There was also a surprise birthday song sung to me! I was very surprised and yes, shy when everyone started to sing Happy Birthday to me lol. Just something I am not used to. 

Time to Blow Out the Candles!! 

Apparently I left 4 standing lol

May the Christmas spirit be with you and yours now and always! 

Laugh, Live and & Love

Sierra