Fetlife

Lately there has been issues on  Fetlife. For those that don't know Fetlife  is a BDSM kink community site.

For many months now, the site has come up on news media for various reasons, which if you think about it, is really no different than Facebook, its just that Fetlife is a site where people who may keep their kinks to themselves, many of us embrace ours. The other reason people choose to be anonymous about themselves is because society doesn't accept people who choose to live a lifestyle that accepts them for who they are. When a breach has happened, many become anxious and angry.

Some of the issues with breach of the terms of agreement for using the site, members outing one another when a relationship goes wrong and links being shared that involve children, which is in direct violation of the terms of agreement.

I don't know about you, but for me, I have scaled back what is on my profile and have been removing more and more photos (not that that changes anything, because we all know that once you put something up on the internet, it is up for life). The reason for me is simple, I've not been active in the community as much as I once was and I feel it is wrong to have comments on my profile depicting that I am available when right now, I'm focused on other areas of my life.

While the site has given me a platform for community, friendships, education and growth. I am concerned about the level of protection given. People need to take accountability for themselves, but when the owner of the site breaches his own Terms of Agreement, one has to wonder just what is deemed safe anymore?

Privacy and Kink

As many of you are no doubt aware, there has been a story published about someone who has a kink lifestyle. The sad thing is, the photos that were used, a portion of them were not of this person. While the person in question may lead a position in society that some deem should be seen as higher than the rest of us,  quite a few of us feel that what a person does behind closed doors and on their own time, is no one's business. 

Now I realize that there is more to this story, I know that people not involved in the matter are now involved and never asked to be. I am aware that others have been contacted as the story was being built before it was published, albeit erroneously.

What needs to be remembered is that a person's family, career, friendships, neighbors, colleagues will all more than likely quietly pass judgment on this person's life. People in our BDSM community have been stepping up and sharing their knowledge and experience with the lifestyle as well as bringing to light the fact that we aren't crazy people who just grab strangers off the street, we are healthy minded individuals, that happen to share safe, sane and CONSENSUAL sex.